Module 10 · Social presence · Lesson 10 of 11

Keeping your word

Small promises kept are what make people believe your big ones.

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The idea

Keeping small promises — calling when you said, arriving when you said, doing the small favour — is what makes people believe your big ones. Each kept promise is evidence that your word means something.

The practical side is promising less: saying “I’ll try” when you are unsure, and “yes” only when you mean it. When you can’t keep a promise, telling people early is a way of keeping faith with them.

Why it matters

Reliability is one of the most valued qualities in any relationship, and it is built entirely from small, kept promises.

See it happen

Anik often says “I’ll send it tonight” and sends it days later.

The first reaction

He always means it when he says it; he is just busy.

With the idea

He starts saying “by Thursday” when Thursday is realistic, and meets it. Colleagues start trusting his dates.

What changed

Smaller, kept promises built more trust than bigger, broken ones.

Easy to get wrong

• Promising what you hope rather than what you can do.
• Treating small promises as unimportant.

Try it now: Promise audit

1. List every promise you made this week, however small.
2. Mark the ones at risk.
3. Keep them, or tell the person today.

Questions to think about

• Which of your promises do people rely on most?
• Where do you tend to over-promise?

Your challenge this week

Keep one small promise exactly as you said you would.