Module 11 · Reflection & learning from experience · Lesson 3 of 7

What happened, why, what did I learn, what would I change

Four questions that turn almost any experience into something useful.

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The idea

Four simple questions can turn almost any experience into learning. What happened? Why did it happen? What did I learn? What would I do differently?

The first question asks for facts, as a neutral observer would describe them — not your interpretation or judgement. The second looks for causes, including ones outside you and ones inside you. The third names the lesson in a sentence you could remember. The fourth turns it into an action for next time.

The order matters. Jumping straight to “what would I do differently?” without first getting the facts straight often produces the wrong lesson. And stopping at “why did it happen?” without asking what you will do can leave you with understanding but no change.

Why it matters

A simple, repeatable set of questions makes reflection quick enough to actually do. Used regularly, it turns ordinary weeks into a steady source of practical lessons.

See it happen

Carmen’s presentation to her manager went badly — she ran out of time and the key point was lost.

The first read

She tells herself she is bad at presentations and dreads the next one.

With this idea

She answers the four questions. What happened: she spent twelve of fifteen minutes on background. Why: she was nervous and over-prepared the easy part. Lesson: lead with the main point. Next time: start with the recommendation, then the background. The next presentation goes well.

What changed

Four questions turned a vague bad feeling into a specific, usable lesson.

Easy to get wrong

• Answering “what happened?” with a judgement — “I messed up” — instead of the facts.
• Looking for causes only in yourself, or only in others. Usually both play a part.

Different perspectives

Reasonable people disagree here. None of these is presented as the final word.

Structure makes reflection useful

Reflective cycles like Gibbs’ give a clear order — describe, feel, evaluate, analyse, conclude, plan — so reflection leads somewhere.

Structure can feel mechanical

Some argue that rigid templates turn reflection into box-ticking; the questions are a support, and real insight sometimes comes from wandering off them.

What this rests on

Practical wisdom. A widely used way of working. Useful to try — not a scientific law.

• Graham Gibbs — the reflective cycle (1988) — A structured way to reflect: describe, feelings, evaluate, analyse, conclude, plan what to do next time.

Try it: The four questions

1. Pick one experience from the past few days — a success, a problem, or something ordinary.
2. Answer: What happened? Why did it happen?
3. Answer: What did I learn? What would I do differently?

Reflect

• What actually happened?
• Which of the four questions do you usually skip?

Use it in the coming days

Use the four questions on one experience each day for three days this week, in your journal.

Where to do it: My Journal

A few lines in your journal are all the four questions need.