Guided technique · Working with feelings · 2 min

Name the feeling

Pausing to find the most precise word for what you feel, and what might be behind it. A vague feeling (“bad”, “stressed”) is hard to work with.

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Pausing to find the most precise word for what you feel, and what might be behind it.

Why it may help

A vague feeling (“bad”, “stressed”) is hard to work with. A precise one (“embarrassed”, “let down”) points to its cause and to what might help — and naming it can take a little heat out of it.

When to use it

• you feel “bad” but can’t say how
• a feeling is strong and confusing
• before deciding how to respond to something

Helps with

• Strong feelings
• Confusion about what you feel

How to do it

1. Notice the feeling and your first word for it.
2. Go one layer deeper. Is “angry” really frustrated, hurt, ignored or embarrassed? Is “sad” lonely, disappointed or tired?
3. Ask what might have triggered it, and what you need right now.
4. Say the precise word to yourself: “I feel…, because…”.

What the evidence says

Emerging evidence: Early or mixed research looks promising, but it is too soon to be confident. Treat it as worth trying, not proven.

What was found

Lab studies show that putting feelings into words can lower their intensity, and research on emotional granularity links precise emotion words with better coping.

What is uncertain

Most studies are short and lab-based, so the long-term effect of practising this in daily life is less clear.

Who it may not suit

If naming feelings makes you spiral into overthinking, keep it to one word and move on to a small action.

Where this comes from: Emotion regulation research.

Afterwards, ask yourself

What precise word did you find, and did it change anything?